I’m doing something else today, no letter to my husband, just some help for you. I want to share with you some books that I have read and found so helpful. I’m focused on books today because not everyone finds videos like the affair recovery videos engaging, not everyone is able to learn that way, as a prolific reader I found it much easier to read and there are so many options. Heres some that we have worked our way through things
This book is for the unfaithful spouse, hopefully your partner is willing to read as well, this one comes highly recommended where ever I’ve been on the affair recovery internet and so it comes top of the list. It’s an easy read, a simple delve into and solid advice. At the end of the day we can only heal ourselves but how the unfaithful behaves and engages will drive a lot of the betrayeds ability to recover.
This book really appealed to me because I love a practical task to complete. This is something that you can do with or without your unfaithful spouse but I would recommend that you do it together cause really it’s gonna have more impact isn’t it? We haven’t delved in to this as a couple yet but it’s a plan. The book itself, before the questions is useful in itself, I’ve read it all, and it talks about love, sex, falling out of love, and how you can get a marriage back on track.
This has been the favourite book I’ve read, I read it in a couple of days cover to cover, and I’m going to go back and do all the activities in it soon. Maybe I will blog them as I work through them. I loved that it’s in stages, steps and easily digestible chunks. The activities help focus you on what you want, who you are, and what you want your life to be, your marriage to be. It starts with Shock and Disbelief of the early days and works its way to Intense Learning. I could identify so much with the stages and difficulties of each stage which helped me immensely understand where I was in my recovery and my marriage.
My husband actually got this book, it is another one in stages which has activities to complete as well. I made a number of notes about it and I engaged in the activities. I’ve not finished the book yet but I’ll happily share a walk through with you guys at some point. I recommend it. It’s a harder read than the previous reads but it’s still a good one.